Younger Men, a big deal?
I decided to kick-start this show with a very interesting topic,after my girl Bella from Nigeria touched on it on her blog. It is quite interesting how society, especially 'women' ah - ah , 'African women' to be more precise have this stigma against younger man. What is the big deal?
Did God dictate that it is wrong to date younger man? If anyone has seen that kinda verse in the bible please refer me. My point is that as long as God didn't say something is wrong then it is not wrong!
I currently have a dear friend of mine who is madly inlove with a guy 6 years her junior, they are lovely and I adore them. She dated a guy her age before this younger one but things didnt work out between them. The total truth is that the younger guy acts more maturely than the older guy, I have never seen her so happy and I support them 100% percent. Even though she still has doubts here and there (because of people talking), she simply cannot deny how happy she really is. All what counts is happiness at the end of the day isn't it?
Can't society learn from Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore? They are gorgeous together and are still going strong, they are perfect and I love them. Isnt that what supposed to count? A solid happy marriage rather than these 6 months marriages with older guys? I wish we could all learn from positive things and stop putting emphasis on things that dont matter.
I really wish people can see there is nothing wrong with women dating younger guys, if there is please feel free to share with us. May be there is something I'm missing for thinking the way I do, I would like how y'all feel about this.
holla!!!
posted by Dee's blog @ 11:27 AM
19 Comments:
sis i really don't see n e thing wrong wit that! i mean if a dude is on my level it don't matter wat his age is u feel me?! people just need to mind they're own bizness! If a person thinks its wrong then they need to make sure they're not doin it! people get on my nerves sumtimes dang!
My sentiments exactly sis, just dont get it....
I am still very old fashioned.But the most important thing is love and respect.Age should not be thematter,maturity is not calculated by the number of birthdays you had but he experiences you have encountered.Having have said that i still believe in having my bit older!!!
Hey nana, It’s as if you know, it feels good cause i am in that situation, and this one is more serious, I am not saying hes going to marry me, but hey my mama knows him and his parents also knows me, and his mama sometimes talks to my mam, and trully speaking I think if he gives what you want forget about age and concentrate on what you have, cause i have even asked this colleague of mine, shes an older woman who is married to man who is 6 years younger than her and told me that really AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER, and what counts most is his matuarity, i wish i could elaborate more on this DAMN!
there's absolutely nothing wrong with dating younger men, i for one am datin a man five years my junior. he's fun to be with and very mature. But i must add that it's nothing serious,it wont lead to marriage or anything and I'm aware that he's still young and got to concentrate on his studies ( yes he's still in varsity, he's doing his second year, nogal)My sister has met him and she thought he was too young, but then she said if i was happy, who cares what anyone thinks?
I think the challenge is to not get stuck in routine and never forget the very things that do make us happy.
I recently watched a movie called The Secret.It talks about the "law of attraction" and that you draw to yourself things your mind dwells upon.
So if you want success think success. If you want love, be love
See below for the basic message.
I PROMISE MYSELF
To be strong that nothing can disturb my peace.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best
And to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every creature I meet
To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger,too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and proclaim this fact to the world
not in loud words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side,
As long as I’m true to the best that is in me.
~~~~~~Christian D. Larson
The fact is, a guy who is going to treat you right is a guy who is going to treat you right, and a guy who is going to do you dirty is a guy who is going to do you dirty. No matter what the age. I can understand dating a younger guy because they haven't seen as much and are likely to appreciate certain things more than an older guy who is more accustomed to them and therefore takes those things for granted.
sweetie wami,
I say, age is just a number - realistically speaking, our minds have been heavily influenced by what the partriachal society says - the idea that the man should be older! Younger or older men - i am simply for love and the choice to love irrespective of what comes your way. I dated a guy who was 10 months younger than i was and God only knows how ashamed i felt - and so i let that affect me and eventually affected him because i made him feel that his age made him less of a man or not man enough for me. Imagine that! 10 months! What rubbish! I say when u find love - which is hard to find in this strange world ; even in the christian world - I say enjoy love and love all the way! Let God lead ur every way - guide your every step and let birthdays count themselves for the sake of alittle fun - not to determine your life necessarily! Do i hear an AMEN!
Amen sweetie-pie, no doubt.....
My advice to all women subjected to this issue, look for love and for nothing else! If God din't say it's wrong who the heck is anyone else to say it is? Follow you hearts sweethearts and never allow our already messed-up society to dictate how you should live your lives.....
Those who prefer older man that's cool too,let's just live our lives the way we want to as long as it is inline with God.....Amen???
Wow this is indeed and very interesting topic of interest. But I must say that age, amoung others things plays a major role within a relationship. Even tho is shouldn't matter and I have no clue as to why it matters, it just does to some people. Men for some reason don't have a problem dating a female that eithers younger or older then they are. Women on the other hand has this "Oh he's younger then you so you have coodies" attitude. To me, it all depends on who you're attracted to. If he happens to be younger or older then you are then so be it. It all depends on the maturity level on both parties. I've dated a older guy, he was seven or eight years my senior. He was mature in one way, but immature in a lot of other ways. I also use to date a guy that was younger then I was and he was quite mature for him to be younger then me. So just b/c one is older doesn't make them more mature. Some people are in their forties still acting like they're in their twenties. You would think that they would be mature right? Wrong. I don't have a problem with it, but for me I just prefer a guy that is older then I am. No reason in particular, I just do. Maybe b/c they seen more and I expect that maturity to be there...*eyebrow raise* so that they can teach me, and show me things that I have yet to see. Idk! But to each is own and you can't help who you fall in love with. Happy bloggings!
i obviously have no problem with it being i am two years older than my loving husband!!!
Well... I don't think it's a big deal that women date younger men. I've actually done it in the past, dating someone younger than myself. I feel as though if you are happy with a certain individual, age should not matter. Maturity is what's important. You can have a 20 year old be more mature than a 40 year old. It's all in how a person was raised and how they've matured through their life. Sometimes I prefer older men... other times I prefer younger men. It's all in how they perceive certain things and how they approach the facts/duties of life. Relationships are hard enough as it is... maturity is a major part in a relationship. If both parties are mature, regardless of age, then in can prosper. It shouldn't matter who's the older one. Hey... both can even be the same age. It's all in the maturity in my opionion!
Okay guys, I'm 29 and it's getting more and more difficult to tell guys my age coz they always seem to be young...
I feel so old at 29 coz everyone is so young 23, 24, 25 how come no one gets old anymore??
For me it is really such an issue coz I like this guy and he's only 25 but oohhhh he's so so so so special..
smart, sensitive, all these things...but I can't get past teh age thing, which is why I slow things down whenever we seem to get too comfortable...I know I"m acoward but that's just how things are.
In response to the previous comment...girlfriend let me tell you, you can't help who you fall for. If he happens to be younger then you are, then so be it. If other people have a problem with you datin this younger man, then you simply tell em "Aww you're just jealous b/c I still got it!!!" If you feeling young meat then I say go for it! If he likes you and you like him then whats the problem?! Show of hands of those who thinks that she should go for it?!....SEE? UNANIMOUS!!!! You never know how cold the water is until you stick ya foot...in this case, I say go head first girl in the deep end! I hope you know how to swim! God bless.
LOL...Tee you never stop girl.....But yeah I agree with you though.
LS, you should go for it girl, as you have read the comments from everybody on here, there is absolutely nothing with dating a younger guy...
I mean Eva Longoria married Tony Parker on 07/07/07, aren't they cute together? I think that's what matters at the end of the day....BEING HAPPY.....so if you really dig the guy, go for it gurl...as long as the guy knows your age and he is fine with it.
Oh yeah, I will go for it...behind closed doors i.e. LOL
Oh you so naughty!!! LOL! I want a invite to the wedding my dear *smile*
Hi hi hi...'behind closed doors', if that will make you comfortable gurl...anyway you want to go about it...as long as it eventually comes out of the 'closed doors' bcos I also wanna be there at the wedding.........lol
LS I know wat u mean about people not gettin older! Im 19 and it seems like all the 17 & 18yr olds want to talk to me but in my case thats kinda illegal! LOL! but honey as its already been said b4...age aint nuthin but a number! yeah he may still like to play video games 4rm time to time but if he knows how to treat u like a grown woman then honey go 4 it! my dad is almost 50 and he still plays playstation so wat does that tell u?! LOL!
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