Love and heartbreaks

Ok gurls I decided to touch on a topic that is quite real to us 'women' and I know we have all experienced it or still yet to experience it.....I'm talking about 'HEARTBREAKS', yes I know, I know girls.....

I sometimes wish life was different in a sense that, we as young people/adults would easily live our lives the way God intended us to. By this I mean, you dont fall inlove with anyone until such time you ready to get married (wouldn't that be nice?)...you meet your prince charming, get married and live happily averafter...uuh, that sounds like a fairy-tale. But we know it is not like that at all. We get attracted to boys from our teenage years, we think they love us, we let ourselves fall inlove with them and they break our hearts over and over again.(ok I know this can happen either way but I'm focusing on 'women' today)

I know we have all experienced this one way or the other. The thing is when a relationship is in its early stages, you both seem so inlove and everything is heaven, as time goes on 3or 4 months down the line you start to see the real person coming out (this often happens when you dont befriend a person first; when you don't get to know a person but you think you love him/her...LOVE at FIRST site cases). And you start realising that this guy has been pretending all along. I know y'all ladies can relate to this because most of my friends relationships (me included) turn out this way and is where it ends. Even though it doesnt happen the same way with everybody but most of failed relationships relate to 'Fakeness/Pretence' from either side at the beginning of the relationship. At least that's my observation, I stand for correction.

My advice ladies is to 'Pray'; in addition to that is Never give yourself 100% to a guy, always leave a 'room for disappointment' because chances are if the guy you are dating is not future husband he is gonna break your heart. So be always prepared, dont hold your breath.

And when a guy you are seeing turns out to be a loser, walk right away no matter how much you 'think' you love him.....you are worth more than that. Do not stand nonsense from a guy you are not married to....not that you should take it from your husband either(that's a topic for another day).

I think we as women are the most beatiful creatures God ever made and he made us special. The sooner we realise how special and precious we are in his eyes, the better because we will see ourselves the way God sees us....And the guy God wants you to be with will be the guy that will see you the way God does. So let's not allow ourseves to be manipulated and used by guys, let's stand up and not take crap........instead focus on God. There is nothing powerful than the power of a praying women. So Pray on girls and wait upon him, there is nothing better than that.

(I know this sounds like a Women Empowerment article but that's not what it's all about, it's all about GOD.....)

Got nothing but LOVE for y'all, u know that....

HOLLA

Homosexuality and God

I had great doubts writing about this topic because of its controversy, but I decided I will, reason being there is a need for it to be talked about. I don’t mean to offend anyone by this post; I felt a need to write about it because it affects us all. We all have family members or loved ones subjected to this issue, so why not talk about it?

We all know what the Holy book says about this issue (I’m not even going to get into that) so I don’t need to quote verses or what not.

1st Scenario: We often hear that a girl (it can be a boy too) at young age of as early as 5 years old or so started liking being in the company of boys, playing with boys toys, and not mixing up with other girls etc.. Of course at that time the girl doesn’t know anything, she is totally innocent and merely acting what she feels. This girl grows up, when reaching her teenage years she realizes there is a configuration accommodating the way she has been feeling since she was young (lesbianism). The girl decides to date girls of course. The fact is she has been feeling this way since she was young.
And then the Holy book comes and says what it says. Whose fault is it that she has been feeling the way she does all her life? Do we blame God for make her feel the way she does?

2nd Scenario: On the flip side, we have people who suddenly realize they have feelings for the same sex when they are in their 20’s, 30’s, 40s or even 50s for that matter; some after being married to an opposite sex. Some of them, just want to experiment whilst some have genuine feelings towards the opposite sex. What do we then say? Does the first Scenario girl/boy deserves to be categorized with people who just want to experiment? People who are ‘claiming’ to be homosexuals?



Well here is my view:
Well I personally cannot blame the 1st scenario girl, it’s not her who decided to feel the way she does. At the same time how do we entwine the 1st scenario girl with the holy book, because it’s really not her fault?
Well I like referring to ‘homosexuality’ as a rooted issue, not a surface one. We should not look at the surface that people are homosexuals but we neglect reasons behind their homosexuality/ what caused them to be homosexuals in the first place. Why did the girl like handing around boys at an early stage? She is young, innocent and doesn’t know anything about homosexuality, why then do it?

See there comes a time when we should look at such issues as a societal problem not only a problem for people who are affected. We are all to blame for letting our society be what it is today. We are to blame for letting the enemy take hold of us and rule the world the way he does. We eventually lost control, he rules and there is nothing we can do about it. He now penetrates through our innocent children because of our sins (remember what the holy book says). The only way this gonna end is if society goes back to God, otherwise we are running a non-ending race.

Just my opinion.

I didn’t mean to preach but it’s what it is.

Feel free to voice out your views…..
Holla….

Younger Men, a big deal?

I decided to kick-start this show with a very interesting topic,after my girl Bella from Nigeria touched on it on her blog. It is quite interesting how society, especially 'women' ah - ah , 'African women' to be more precise have this stigma against younger man. What is the big deal?

Did God dictate that it is wrong to date younger man? If anyone has seen that kinda verse in the bible please refer me. My point is that as long as God didn't say something is wrong then it is not wrong!

I currently have a dear friend of mine who is madly inlove with a guy 6 years her junior, they are lovely and I adore them. She dated a guy her age before this younger one but things didnt work out between them. The total truth is that the younger guy acts more maturely than the older guy, I have never seen her so happy and I support them 100% percent. Even though she still has doubts here and there (because of people talking), she simply cannot deny how happy she really is. All what counts is happiness at the end of the day isn't it?

Can't society learn from Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore? They are gorgeous together and are still going strong, they are perfect and I love them. Isnt that what supposed to count? A solid happy marriage rather than these 6 months marriages with older guys? I wish we could all learn from positive things and stop putting emphasis on things that dont matter.

I really wish people can see there is nothing wrong with women dating younger guys, if there is please feel free to share with us. May be there is something I'm missing for thinking the way I do, I would like how y'all feel about this.

holla!!!

Hi Peeps

Ok, this is quite new for me but I always wished to have something like this; where I can share my thoughts and feelings outside 'Myspace'. Don't get me wrong I love myspace, and people who have myspace know the reason why I do. It's awesome!

I would love to dedicate this blog to my girls, where we can share everything, advising each other in all aspects of life; from God, family, social, career, anything you can think of. I realised years ago when I was bit younger that one of my passions is to give advise to people who need it. I prayed through that God helps me reach a point whereby I'm able access everybody that I might be of assistance to. That doesn't mean every advise I give is correct but what I'm sure of is the fact that it will help. Those who dont have my e-mail and want to contact me personally, feel free to leave me a personal message on Myspace: www.myspace.com/dineo2006

This blog is not limited to girls only; I would love to have guys on here as well, exchange ideas, be of assistance to one another, solve ploblems etc. Will try to up-date you as often as possible......

Welcome y'all...
Signing out.....
Dee